eating disorder??

Question
ill try keep this as short and as informative as poss.
I'm 18, a dress size UK 16, i weigh around 12-13stone, & i think i have an eating disorder which developed when my parents split up when i was 4. i lived with my mum who gave me chips, crisps, chocolate, biscuits ect. and my dad FORCE fed me vegetables, fruits ect.. which resulted in my throwing up and crying..
its controlled my life and no body has ever helped me..as you can guess my problem is that i cant eat veg, fruit, fish, meat..because i throw up or gag! its a mental thing I'm sure as i really want to eat it. as its embarrassing being the only adult at the table ordering from the children's menu! people think I'm stupid and just a fussy eater and i cant explain to them that its more than that and i really wanted some help.
I'm not doing this to loose weight although I'm aware that I'm slightly over weight, got bad skin etc..
I'm doing this beings its my health at risk and it gets me down all the time, i always get upset about it because I'm trapped and i want to change but no one will help.  i wan to be happy. please help me in anyway that you can. I'm desperate. thank you

Answer
Hello Ashley,

Thank you for your feed back. I think you read in a hostile tone that was not intended. I found your note quite thought provoking, and did try to give you some ideas to get into actions, to get past feeling trapped and stuck - which is the essence of depression.

You wrote about people thinking you are stupid or fussy, I suggest maybe not because it is so common for people have to be fussy about a lot of food issues - just contact with a peanut can be a life and death issue.

Please consider what you gave me to consider: your parents eating habits are on opposite ends of the scale, how can they even agree on a restaurant to dine in? But none of that is any of your fault!

I certainly did not mean to imply that you are self absorbed, not caring, but self conscious, because you read like you have taken on a lot on that you would like to change but it is not in your power or responsiblity to do so.

Please try to eliminate refined sugar from your diet, it is a mood swinger. Almost any form of exercise; a brisk walk for even 3 minutes, climb a staircase, it all ads up, can help you to feel your own power.

My best wishes in sorting out what is all yours and can control and what is thrust upon you and just dealt with.

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